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Pathways and Q.C. B.E.S.T. parents teach the basis for academic excellence
Posted in: Pathways Blog and Ateneo de Manila Site

WHY DO disadvantaged students excel? In a July 2005 study of 17 schools throughout Markina and Bulacan published in Magaling Ang Pinoy! By Dr. Queena Lee-Chua, Ma.Isabel Sison-Dionisio, and Nerisa Fernandez, the reason is surprisingly not about finances, but family environment. By giving children a conducive environment for growth, they are able to surpass challenges and excel academically.

Sadly, not enough disadvantaged parents know this. Their parenting style harkens back to the dark days of physical punishment and harsh scolding. Little do they realize that these time-tested methods, not only weaken their child’s spirit, but sets ripples into the future, perpetrating a never-ending cycle of hurt and violence.

Beginning November 2008, Pathways for Higher Education, an NGO dedicated to promoting higher-quality education to underprivileged children, and Quezon City B.E.S.T (Basta Everday Suportahan Taka) Parents, have banded together to re-educate the public school parents for the sake of their children’s and the country’s future.

Pathways and QC B.E.S.T. parents have translated and simplified the findings from Magaling ang Pinoy! and condensed it into a easy-to-digest handout aptly called ABaKaDa ng QC B.E.S.T. Parents. Combined with workshops given by volunteer Quezon City parents, who themselves have undergone training with Dr. Queena Lee-Chua, the seminar aims to enhance the parenting styles of misinformed parents around the country. Last November 14, 2008, the first seminar was given at Camp Aguinaldo High School in Quezon City. And, this is only the beginning. By continuously giving these seminars around the country, Pathways and Q.C. B.E.S.T parents will sow the seeds to the country’s future. Teaching them parenting basics educational institutions often miss.

The parenting alphabet

Together, Pathways and Q.C. B.E.S.T. parents teach ABaKada (Atensyon, Buong Pagtitiwala o Pagpapahalaga sa Sarili, Komunikasyon, Disiplinang May Pagmamahal, Espesyal na Relasyon sa Asawa’t Pamilya):

Atensyon (Attention). Most children’s problems begin because their parents fail to give them attention. By allotting their children quality time and attention, parents discourage their children’s need to gain attention by participating in unruly behavior.

Buong Pagtitiwala or Pagpapahalaga sa Sarili (Self-Esteem). A healthy self-esteem empowers. It enables children to confidently undertake challenges and triumph. Parents can promote self-esteem amongst their children by celebrating their triumphs, encouraging their individuality, avoiding sibling comparisons, and respecting their children’s unique personality.

Komunikasyon (Communication). Parents may talk everyday with their children, but they may rarely converse. Pathways and Q.C. B.E.S.T. parents preach active listening from parents. Instead of passively hearing a story, parents are encouraged to take in the verbal and non-verbal signs their children give off; and to give clear feedback and sympathize with their children’s problems.

Disiplina (Discipline). Upon hearing the word, most parents would naturally assume it means spanking or other forms of corporal punishment. Contrary to this belief, discipline simply means instructing their children. Instead of spanking, parents are taught to set rules ahead of time and agree on just punishments upon violation.

Espesyal na Relasyion sa Asawa’t Pamilya (Building a Special Relationship with Spouse and Children). Parenting is not just about the children, but also includes the spouse. By encouraging them to strengthen their relationships with all members of their families, parents build a loving home environment that inspires growth and excellence from their children.

Parenting is being responsible for the growth and development of fragile lives. It is a large task one is hardly ever prepared for. With programs like ABaKaDa ng Q.C. B.E.S.T Parents, Pathways for Higher Education and enlightened parents hope to change the face of the country - one home at a time.
Pathways for Higher Education strives to promote quality higher education for underprivileged children. For more information, you may contact them at 426-6001 local 4045 to 4049. They are located at Rm. 200, CCS Building, Social Development Complex, Ateneo De Manila University, Loyola Heights, Quezon City. You can also refer to their website at


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